{"id":221,"date":"2012-05-14T00:10:16","date_gmt":"2012-05-14T04:10:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/yoshee08.com\/blog\/?p=221"},"modified":"2012-05-14T00:10:16","modified_gmt":"2012-05-14T04:10:16","slug":"growing-pains","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/homeschool\/growing-pains\/","title":{"rendered":"Growing Pains"},"content":{"rendered":"

I will start off by asking for people to daven for Reuven Dovid ben Miriam. (***updated name***)<\/strong>\u00a0 He got hit in the throat with a baseball and had to undergo surgery.\u00a0 Baruch Hashem he is alive but will have a stint in his throat for 6-8 weeks, not being able to talk. He will have a tracheotomy tube to breathe through until stint is removed. Afterwards, they will attempt to do reconstruction surgery and hopefully will be able to talk again.<\/p>\n

It was a busy day today.\u00a0 Much has happened, and not with my children, but as I walked back into the house this evening, with my mind all full of different thoughts from the day, I took just a second to let what I saw and felt sink in.\u00a0 The 2 year old was standing at the kitchen counter on one of our folding chairs, singing and bouncing, just asking for the chair to collapse.\u00a0 It was nothing unusual, he loves to do that, however tonight it struck me different than usual, not sure why.\u00a0 Perhaps it was a combination of the day – making a shiva call, going hiking with the family, finding out my friend’s husband got severely hurt\u00a0in a very unusual accident, to other things – some planned, some unplanned, but it seems that on these days the little things get looked at differently.<\/p>\n

I was thinking how amazingly different each of our boys are.\u00a0 One boy tells me to watch out for it is going to be crazy in the house when they are all teenagers and a short while later comes over and “catches” me and tells me he caught me and that he is suspicious I am a double agent for the wrong country.\u00a0 Another thinks he is as big as his older brothers and of course everything is “ME DO IT!” while at the same time needing to know exactly what ingredients are in his pineapple pieces or his zucchini bread.\u00a0 We have one whose creative juices are constantly running away with him and he can create everything out of nothing but once he is finished, all those tiny pieces of paper and such just can’t seem to get picked up, no matter how hard he tries.\u00a0 To another whose computer knowledge has actually surpassed his father’s in some areas and everything that comes out of his mouth starts with “Ubuntu.”<\/p>\n

These boys all have the same mother and the same father, but yet, each is vastly different from each other.\u00a0 Raising even one child is not easy, as any parent will tell you, however, there is something kind of refreshing to working with each of the children.\u00a0 It takes a lot of work and effort on the part of the parent to not just “raise” a child, but to raise each child in the way that is best for them so that they will grow to their unique potential.\u00a0 Up until this week I would arrange the order of the lessons to what suited me, and for the most part it seemed to work out well.\u00a0 It was not until this week that I realized that it is not always the best for everyone.\u00a0 I found out that in math, one child is better off doing it at the end of the day, the very last thing that I do for then I can sit down beside him for the 15 minutes he needs to finish his work while all the other siblings are out of the room.\u00a0 This child needs me to give him my 100% undivided attention while he works on his problems.\u00a0 Not that I do any of the problems for him, but I am there to help keep him on track.\u00a0 He needs me to ask him what the next question is, he needs me to ask him what he needs to do first, etc.\u00a0 With my attention and the lack of distractions from others, he all of a sudden can finish in a reasonable amount of time!<\/p>\n

Perhaps it is the joy a parent gets from watching their children grow, but perhaps it is also the feeling that I too have grown.\u00a0 Raising children is not just about the children.\u00a0 Raising children is also about us, the parents.\u00a0 It is easy to go through the moments where the child is listening and doing what they are supposed to do.\u00a0 The challenge is when it is not so easy.\u00a0 What happens when you all have a wonderful day and it seems ruined by the fact that at 10pm the children are still not in bed for they are just too wild and wired from the excitement and exhaustion?\u00a0 What happens when a child throws a huge tantrum every time they think life is so unfair?\u00a0 What happens if there are other bad middos such as lying or hurting taking place?<\/p>\n

All these challenges push us, the parents, to the limits.\u00a0 Often times we might be up at night thinking, other times during the day.\u00a0 There are times where we can find the answer quickly, and sometimes the answer seems to elude us for eons.\u00a0 But we keep on trying.\u00a0 Then, one day we look back and all of a sudden we notice how they have changed.\u00a0 The child who used to touch the wet paint of others’ pictures and not sit still, now is maturing and sits with the adults and participates in conversations (until you have to shoo him away! \ud83d\ude42\u00a0 )\u00a0 The one who threw such wonderful tantrums and got offended so easily, well, all of a sudden I realize that the tantrums have almost disappeared.\u00a0 Children all go through different stages in life.\u00a0 With our help, they usually outgrow their “growing pains.”<\/p>\n

But if we would look back at ourselves, we would see that we too have grown.\u00a0 At first, we never imagined that we could cope with certain situations, and now, those situations are a piece of cake!\u00a0 And not only that, we find that while we are dealing with new challenges, we also add more things to our resume that we might never have dreamed of.<\/p>\n

So, as I am thinking about how wonderful it is to be a part of our children’s life and to see them grow and mature, I hope this feeling will be able to carry me on to the next challenge, whatever that may be.\u00a0 Hopefully I will remember that with my constant love and devotion that this too will pass and be outgrown and the gorgeous, amazing, unique flower that is emerging will continue to unfold.<\/p>\n

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I will start off by asking for people to daven for Reuven Dovid ben Miriam. (***updated name***)\u00a0 He got hit in the throat with a baseball and had to undergo surgery.\u00a0 Baruch Hashem he is alive but will have a stint in his throat for 6-8 weeks, not being able to talk. He will have … Continue reading “Growing Pains”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":224,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false,"jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[6],"tags":[116,117,129,217,218,495],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/growing_pains_large.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p9ErqW-3z","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/221"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=221"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/221\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/224"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=221"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=221"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/atorahlife.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=221"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}